Today is the last day of this semester and it's over but I still feel very helpless. I encountered a lot of problems during this sem, especially with a particular project.
Let me recap: There are 4 people in my group which makes us severely at a disadvantage as compared to other groups with 5-6 people. Let's call this girl J, this guy M, and another girl R.
So J and M don't respond to my messages in the group chat which is ridiculous because I saw that a blog post they did for an online learning module claim that they can't live without their phones. Which is equivalent to that they should be able to read my messages. But why are they not responding? This really led to a lot trouble subsequently.
Learning point: Confront them. Tell them that it is pertinent that they check their messages especially when it is near important project deadlines/ in the process.
We did meet up every Saturday at M's house, but there has been an incident before that made me very upset. Let's reflect:
27Oct:
4.53pm - I asked if we can have a meeting at 2 or 3pm the next day
4.54pm - J asked why so early
5.48pm - I changed the timing to 5pm instead
11.32pm - M asked if we having dinner together and i replied if his parents were cooking. He didn't reply
28 Oct:
12pm - M just said Wah
12.13pm - I asked again if we meeting at 5pm and let's eat dinner together
12.36pm - J said she having early dinner with her fam and if we are still eating dinner then she'll join us at 6pm instead
12.52pm - I said ok we'll still meet at 5pm
13.47pm - R said she would reach at 6pm and she was having early dinner with her fam
3.03pm - I said lets do 6pm (i was bz and my "friends" were angry at me. Was upset and forgot to tell my parents that we can eat early dinner. Decided that I would go over to M house and order takeaway instead)
5.54pm - M replied and said he was still outside having dinner and would be back 20 min later
6.01pm - R asked MJ later around 6.20pm can he fetch her
6.27pm - I asked M if I can go there or he is still not home
6.29pm - he said he was fetching R now
6.30pm - I asked how long more, and he replied that R was still 2 stops away
6.47pm - Ran out of patience. told them i'll be late cause I ordering dinner to bring over
6.48pm - J said she needed to leave at 9pm
6.51pm - R said I could go over and they were driving back
6.52pm - J said she had been waiting at his doorstep since 6.30pm
6.55pm - M asked his parents to open the door
I think from this conversation, MJ was at fault. He only told at nearly 6pm (our meeting time) that he would only be back at 6.20pm. R is also at fault because she said 6.20pm M can get her but 6.30pm she was still not at her designated pick up point. I doubt I was at fault because I decided to get dinner instead and when I got over there, M and R just reached too. J pissed me off because she knew we were rushing to do the script, and I was getting scolded, and she did not tell any of us that she had been waiting since 6.30pm. I assumed that everyone was late so since I lived nearby, I would not leave my place and put myself outside his door for 30 mins.
Okay that was the incident. Learning Point: The lack of communication ultimately led to this. If M did tell us earlier where he was at, we would have shifted the timing. My "friends" were ultimately pieces of shit because they were not there when I needed help. Guess that I do not want this kind of friends who scold me without knowing how much shit I am in.
From the start, if someone is not replying, we should just verbally tell the person that it is important that he/she checks her messages so as to avoid this mess.
R is seriously inattentive. Even I, who is at a disadvantage, know more about what to do than her. She always asks me where to do this and that, and when we have discussed before, she still asked me the same question.
Learning Point: Once or twice is okay. If it is always like this, she is nothing but a burden. Maybe should also tell her off for not being attentive.
Video showcase was a major disaster
